School, work, friends, family… four aspects of your life that will probably cause you stress at some point in your life. Wait, let me delete the “probably” and restate that: four aspects of your life that will cause you stress at some point in your life.
Stress is, according to Google.. “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances” and can cause serious health problems including:
- Sleeping issues
- Weight problems
- Digestive problems
…and the list continues. But believe it or not, stress can actually be really helpful in some situations and help you achieve your goals. It can help you get through nerve-wracking school presentations, improve your concentration during exams and push you to do something that you really don’t want to do.. for example studying.
Personally, when I had to write essays for school, we usually had about 2-3-4 weeks before we had to hand it in. I would slowly start it in the first week and gradually add more every night and I would usually still have the majority to finish the night before. This put me under so much stress and pressure the night before and I would stay up until 2-3am to finish. Despite being under so much stress and being extremely tired the next morning, I was always happy with the quality of the essays. I got pretty high marks for my essays too. Therefore, I’m an avid believer that being under stress helps you perform (or write…depending on your situation) better.
But at a certain point stress stops being helpful and starts causing issues to your mood, health, motivation and relationships.
And I mean there’s so many things that people can do to help avoid the stress. But, let’s be completely honest, no matter how hard you try to prevent the stress, it’ll get to you and you’re going to have to relieve it. The sooner and the healthier, the better.
TAKE A MOMENT
When I state “take a moment”, I really mean take an hour or even a day and do absolutely nothing. You’re probably thinking that by doing this you’re running away from your problems. But no you’re not. You’re giving yourself a break to step out of them (temporarily). Then you can review them and think of solutions. And then when you’re ready, you can step back into them and begin to resolve effectively.
One thing I love doing is just laying in bed and thinking about my life in general. Questions that I constantly ask myself are: What’s going on right now in my life? What have I accomplished? What do I still want to accomplish? Where do I see myself in 5 years?
And every time I ask myself those questions, I get a different answer each time. OK sorry, I’m going off on a tangent here, but I really think if you’re under stress, give yourself some time and ask yourself those questions. This will make it so much easier for you to resolve your stress-related problems.
CRY IT OUT
Yes, I do really mean to cry it out. Let those eyes of yours fill up with water and let the water dribble down your face. Weird way of putting it, but if you really think about it, the water isn’t literally pouring down your face. It slowly dribbles.
Crying is natural and it honestly feels so good once it’s all out. All the built of emotion from the stress is released through the tears and clears out your system.
As a male I’m not at all ashamed to admit that I cry. Forget the stereotypes and just let it out dude. Every human on Earth cries, even if they don’t admit it.
CONNECT WITH FRIENDS
Another helpful way to deal with stress is to reach out to your friends. Ask a friend if they wanna get a drink somewhere or ask them if they want to come over for a night.
I suggest you ask someone who doesn’t mind listening to you open up to them and talk about all your problems. Doing this, not only creates a better and closer relationship with you and your friend but they can also give you some needed advice.
Or if you don’t want to talk about your problems at all, you can “use” them to keep your mind of the stress for a little bit. Hopefully, they’ll get you to laugh a little! Laughing releases endorphins that improve your mood and relieve stress.
DANCE OUT THE STRESS
Whether you’re blasting music in your room and dancing foolishly or choreographing a routine in a studio.. dancing in anyway relieves stress.
I personally love dancing in a studio but also love just putting on an upbeat Spotify playlist and being dumb in my room. Being able to shake some stress out your body is such an amazing and rejuvenating feeling.
If you’re stressed for a school assignment, take two minutes, dance your little fist sized heart out and return to the assignment as if nothing ever happened. I promise you it works!
Plus, you’re moving and being active while doing it, which is a bonus for your health. A win-win here!
If you’re not really into dancing, then go workout. Again, by exercising your body you’re releasing endorphins which are chemicals in the body that kinda pretend to be painkillers. BUT are natural !
I tend to choose the “DANCE IT OUT” option since I’m a dancer, but sometimes I force myself to do a workout. I do Youtube workouts at home though and one of my all time favourites is the 2016 Abs Workout from Blogilates. It never gets boring and coincidentally one of the main exercises is the ballerina sit up!
TAKE TRIPS ON YOUR OWN
Go book one ticket for yourself to your dream destination. Only, if you have the time and money of course. Travelling without itinerary and experiencing places on your own is so much fun and it gives you a break from reality (stress) for a bit.
You don’t necessarily have to go book a trip somewhere extravagant. A stroll, walk or hike in your town is just as effective for relieving stress.
I wrote a blog post about why I think travelling alone is so much better. If you’re interested you can find it here.
STUFF YOUR FACE
BEFORE you start going off on me for writing this because this sounds really bad.. hear me out!
I obviously don’t suggest that you start binging on food every time or everyday you’re stressed. [Honestly if I did that I would’ve gained so much weight during my high school years]. SO don’t do that, because if you start downing food when you’re stressed it will turn into a go-to stress reliever which is not healthy at all.
However, I do think it’s OK to buy and eat your guilty pleasure once in awhile. And by once in awhile, I mean maybe once a month or once every 3-4 months. I say go for once every 3-4 months because it won’t turn into a constant habit then.
If you’re going to use this method to help you relieve stress, take it seriously and watch what you eat! Disclaimer: I am not in anyway responsible for how much weight you gain and any health problems related to this method of relieving stress just saying.
So yes.. those are some of the most effective methods that I use to help relieve my stress. Some of us can handle it better than others, and that’s ok. But I’m gonna tell you one thing that I know is 100% true.. Every single person on this planet goes through stress at one point in their lives and we all deal with it differently. So if you opt to cry it out every time, that’s totally ok!
I truly think that the methods stated above for relieving stress do help and I hope you use some of these methods the next time you have stress built up!